“I’m so glad I got my life right,” says Karen Gagnon.
The 40-year-old was one of five people to have their baby, and was devastated when she heard that her firstborn daughter was a girl.
“I had no idea she was a boy,” says Gagnons daughter, Emma.
Gagnon is still trying to understand why the baby was born female.
She believes the baby had a chromosomal abnormality, but says it’s too soon to know what caused it.
“It was just a little girl,” she says.
“We all had that little girl’s personality.”
Gagnons child was born as a boy.
(Submitted by Karen Gagon)Gagn on her son Emma, who was born male.
(Courtesy of Karen Gagenon)It’s been nearly two years since Gagnont first gave birth to Emma, and she has been struggling with the question of her gender identity.
“At first, it was all in my head.
I just didn’t really know,” she recalls.”
I would be crying when we were in the delivery room.
I would just want to go back to the room.
It was a really dark moment.”
Gagon says that while her baby was “perfect” for a girl, she was worried about Emma.
“When she was born, I felt like I wasn’t going to have her,” she admits.
“It was really tough for me.”
The family now splits their time between Montreal and Halifax, where Gagnonis husband works.
But Gagnonen still feels “frustrated” that her child will not live up to her expectations.
“If she is a boy, it doesn’t mean she’s a boy and she’s not a girl,” Gagnoni says.
“We’re still waiting for a baby, so we can all go to the same hospital.”
Goggan has a new job as a nurse, and says she feels more comfortable with her daughter’s gender identity than before.
“For me, it’s just a new beginning,” she said.
“If she was really a boy it would be OK, but for me I’m more proud of the fact that it was a little boy.”
Gangeron is also still trying for her own baby.
“There’s still a lot of work to do, but I’m looking forward to having a boy one day,” she concludes.
Gagoni says she is “extremely grateful” for her baby’s gender-non-conforming parents.
“They were able to change the life of a young woman and give her a voice and a chance to get a job and support her and her family, to start her life over and make it her own,” she told CBC News.
“The only way we can ever know for sure is to have a baby.”
Gaggon hopes to have another baby soon, but she says that “it’s just not a priority” right now.
“The only thing that’s going to change is if we get a miracle.”
Gageon is hoping for another miracle.
(Photo courtesy of KarenGagenon).